Have you ever felt the need to explain yourself to a woman? Thought that if you can only get her to understand, then whatever gay fantasy you’ve been cradling can finally come true?
Do you think of smart things to say to melt her?
Are you the kind of guy that sends her paragraphs of text when you feel butt-hurt?
You’re too LOGICAL.
She LAUGHS about it as she shows how PATHETIC you are to her friends. It makes her feel good to have silly men like you wrapped around her finger. POWERFUL.
The need for closure in particular is a weakness.
Many inexperienced guys make this mistake. The need to tie things off in a bow. To ‘honor’ the relationship ‘the right way’. Cope. Chick-mindset. And worse, it’s a lie, it’s really your selfish childish need. You likely absorbed this mentality from women. Either osmotically from ingesting endless feminized music and tv, or indirectly from never moving past the internal state of a wounded little boy crying for his Mommy.
AMBIGUITY IS POWERFUL.
No ending.
No closure.
Instead you give silence, uncertainty and wry playfulness.
When the relationship reaches a point of breaking or stress, simply drop off. Silence. Or worse - you give her a version of the same energy you always have. No change regardless of time or distance.
‘Did he ever even care?’ ‘Was I just one more to him?’ ‘How can he be so heartless?’
Girls will come to break up or tell you it’s over. To get closure. Often in a cute little outfit and makeup. ‘Sure, whatever, since you’re here we’re fucking.’
Women will come and go. With ambiguity, they will come back.
It might be a day or it might be a year. But if you hooked into their Inner Child, and you kept it ambiguous, they will more likely than not be back. Or at the very least think about you endlessly when they hammer away on their Satisfyer.
Remember, from your perspective there are functionally infinite women in this world. Reflect on that before you feel the impulse to explain yourself, to beg like a dog, or to say a heartfelt farewell and get ‘proper closure’ destroying all tension. It’s female-serving bullshit. Treat them like a renewable resource, an infinite river. They never run out. There is always a new, younger, hotter woman. Stop projecting your pathetic Mommy needs onto women. It’s anti-seductive. They can’t access their playful inner child energy and enjoy themselves if they have to be your pseudo-mommy and absorb your unmet emotional needs.
If you can fill your own cup, then they will come to drink THIRSTILY.
I always have a lot of care and respect for the men I invest myself in and have never once laughed about them behind their back or called them pathetic. But in a hierarchical dynamic it breaks the frame if you’re emotionally dumping on your sub and I’m not sure there is such thing as closure. However I do think it can be beautiful to share appreciation and gratitude for what the person and the relationship meant to you.
I was just thinking about this exact thing as how the things ended between me and the girl I was dating 6 months ago she was being distant, cold and bitchy so I left her alone so to get my attention and make me feel jealous she started talking about how she misses her ex bf (surprising he reached out to her and she had no reaction to him at all lmfaoo) but she put two tweets specifically at times and made sure I see them, we both are active on Twitter sadly I reacted on the last one where she mentioned how she misses him (I have mother wound so it's easy for me to get rattled but I have worked upon it so much and I'm doing better now) so I reached out to her very furiously saying "you never loved me" (mistake I know but she's the first woman I have been serious with and she taught me most about female nature already) and she replied with she just wanna get rid of me and I left her on seen and never contacted her since then. She lurks on my socials even after she has me blocked and a few days ago her account showed up on my tl as she made a new one i think she saw my tweets were I mentioned other women and how they were all obsessed with me and gave me gifts cause they like me lol so she went on a rant and privated her acc 😭 she still feels things just can't accept how she messed up, women and accountability can't be found in same sentance I think.