Should you try to close quickly?

An impulse I see again and again in guys is a race to the finish line.

They are driven by internal need and anxiety to connect to the feminine so strongly, for sex and validation that they try to one hit kill over and over again. Not realising that this rush makes them sub-communicate low value energy. It makes them undesirable.

Worse still, if you have enough basic skills to get a woman into bed but you rush her there, and hit the issues of 'last minute resistance' (as the old school PUAs used to call it - very telling), or you hit 'buyers remorse' in the girl and she later regrets it (potentially extremely dangerous in the era of retroactive consent).

You should never race to sex (or commitment).

In fact nothing you do with women should be rushed, ironically other than the one thing guys hesitate to do -- seizing an opportunity to open.

If you are optimizing to get your nut then you’re going to create problems like this.

The female wavelength is ‘it just happened’. Mostly they have to be led there in small steps and with tension/uncertainty in a slow unboxing. Tantric.

Every moment is its own mini event.

This is why womanisers LOVE women - even down to a slow touch of the back of her neck as you lean in and speak exciting perverted thoughts into her ear that twist the world into some living fantasy, a magical reality.

It’s not a race to nut and roll over, it’s seduction, and you have to understand that seduction happens inside her mind not to her body.

Let go of your need. Your outcome dependence. And ESPECIALLY let go of your need for validation from women.

The way I think about is - and disclaimer this is quite a dangerous thought - since people don’t believe what they see, they see what they believe, if you can take an interested person who respects you (in frame) then you can bend their reality. Then, with a bit of patience and method you could invite her or anyone else to fill the role in your life that you want.

Beware that you can incept these ideas to such a degree that it may provoke a root level personality crisis in them, where their emotions and mind are in conflict --- for instance if they are jealous and against sharing but you have pushed them into a mode of obsession with you (to a point of primal possessiveness) + also adding programming for non-monogamy, perhaps for them for the first time, this is a common pattern that will often break girls mentally.

With some PATIENCE and SKILL you can carry women (or anyone really) where you want to take them, so long as 1) they care what you think/ they respect you and 2) they want to please you (as opposed to wanting you to please them, i.e. they aren't a princess). The switched on amongst you will understand that this is achieved through frame, compliance tests, screening and reinforcement. However applying these skills in practice to a high-level is advanced material.